Do You Know About the “Love Hormone?”

If the table’s all set for your Valentine’s Day dinner, then you’ve prescribed yourself one of the best treatments to help reduce your stress and even improve your physical health: love.

Oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” is a neuropeptide that is released by the pituitary gland. Continue reading

‘Proof of Heaven’ Documents Existence of Afterlife, Multiverse, Intelligent Life Beyond Earth, Multidimensional Realities

[singlepic id=269 w=320 h=240 float=left]There’s a secret that’s much bigger than politics, health freedom, science or even the entire history of the human race. That secret remains entirely unacknowledged — even condemned — by the scientific community, and yet it is the single most important secret about everything that is. Yes, everything.

That secret is simply this: We all survive the physical death of our bodies. Our consciousness lives on, Continue reading

Perfecting Your Companionship

Everyone wants a healthy body. But what is supremely desirable and necessary for optimal health and contentment are daily feelings of peace and rewarding emotions. In this area, the foundation of a fulfilling, intimate relationship rests on you and your companion feeling satisfied and happy about how you relate to each other.

Men and Stress

Men usually don’t like to talk about their feelings of worry or sadness — not even with wife and family. At an early age, a man’s self-esteem becomes tied to his accomplishments in life. And, later, his self-esteem becomes dependent on his ability to provide for himself and his family.

Consequently, Continue reading

A Happy Marriage Is Shown To Be Heart Healthy

Individuals in satisfying marriages can probably attest that their relationships bring them feelings of joy and happiness. Now, researchers at the University of Rochester’s School of Nursing report that a good marriage may also promote heart health. 

In a study of 225 coronary bypass patients, a team of scientists found that being in a healthy marital union significantly increased an individual’s chances of survival 15 years after the operation.

Women who were happily married had an 83 percent chance of being alive 15 years after their bypass surgery, compared to 28 percent of females in unhappy marriages and 27 percent of single women. The survival rate for men in satisfying relationships was 83 percent, compared to 60 percent in men that were married but not happy and 36 percent of single men.

“Coronary bypass surgery was once seen as a miracle cure for heart disease,” said lead author Kathleen King. “But now we know that for most patients, grafts are a temporary patch, even more susceptible to clogging and disease than native arteries. So, it’s important to look Continue reading

Medical myths: Bizarre, but true…

Fat people are jollier

Ever since Falstaff, fatness has been associated with jollity. According to psychologists at Lakehead University in Canada, the “jolly fat” hypothesis might actually be true, at least among women. Not only have they found a link, they suggest a mechanism, too: estrogen.

They put forward the idea that body fat protects women again negative moods. In other words, the fatter a woman is, the less depressed she gets.

In the two-part research, the team looked at Body Mass Index (BMI), a measure that takes into account Continue reading

Live Longer with Love in Your Life

Love is the most powerful emotion you will ever experience, and studies show that while you are feeling it, endorphins and immune cells are produced in great number, boosting your health and longevity. For Valentine’s Day, share love and health with the special people in your life and lengthen your years.

1. Love = a Healthy Heart

Many studies have shown that relationships play a role in heart health. A study from the University of Texas Research, conducted with rabbits, found that love can reduce plaque buildup in your arteries, helping reduce overall risk of heart attack. In this study, rabbits were fed an artery-blocking diet, and some of the rabbits received love and affection while the others received none. The surprising results revealed that the rabbits given tender loving care had 60% less plaque buildup than their counterparts.

2. Get an Immune Boost with Love

Love in your life might just save you from the flu. One study showed that a five-minute episode of feeling genuine care or compassion enhanced the whole immune system, causing a gradual climb in secretory immunoglobulin A (IgA), your body’s natural antibody against colds, flu, and other invading germs. Even watching movies about love or altruism, petting a fluffy animal pal, and practicing selfless service for others has been shown to increase levels of IgA.

3. Keep in Touch with Your Loved Ones

Human touch, long recognized as a powerful healing technique, increases your body’s production of endorphins, growth hormone, and DHEA, all of which lengthen your life span and lower the negative impact of stress. In fact, studies have found that unconscious patients who are regularly touched recover faster than those who are not touched. Researchers have also observed that orphaned babies stop growing and even die from the lack of touch and love. So hug, cuddle, and massage your loved ones to live longer.

4. Connect with Friends to Increase Your Lifespan

Humans have depended on one another for survival since time immemorial, and indeed, many studies have found that even today, people rich in social and community support are more likely to live longer than those with weak social connections. Even people with unhealthy lifestyles tend to live longer than people lacking in social and community support. According to a study recently put out by Brigham Young University, spending time with friends has an extremely positive effect on health and can cut your risk of an early death in half. Julianne Holt-Lunstad, the research team’s head said that lacking in social relationships “was equivalent to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.” If you find yourself spending most of your time alone, reach out. Offer to babysit for family members or join groups of people who share similar interests and gather together in person. Feel your presence in the world and make it felt by others.

5. Prescription for Longevity: A Happy Marriage

Research has confirmed that happily married couples live, on average, four years longer than single people. According to one study, nearly 100 percent of male centenarians are married or have only recently been widowed. Psychologists attribute the increased life span to the sense of interconnectedness with another human being. Studies have indicated that a happy marriage improves your mood, positively affects your dietary decisions, and leads to a larger social network of friends — three major factors of longevity. People in a marriage also tend to take better care of each other; and feeling that someone would care for you in times of illness appears to increase the sense of security about the future, cutting back on stress.

Studies suggest that the longer a marriage lasts, the greater the rewards. These days, there are many forms of spouse-like relationships that may benefit in similar ways. But not all relationships positively affect our health. Other research has found that marriage problems may increase risk for heart disease by 34% and tend to result in a lower survival rate in women with breast cancer.

Bonus tip: If you have recently ended a relationship, you can strengthen your spirit with affirmations and invocations. Consider listening to Invocations for Health, Longevity, and Healing a Broken Heart, a powerful set of guided invocations.

6. Healthy Loving Lengthens Your Life Span

Healthy sex, nature’s fountain of youth, raises your levels of endorphins, DHEA, and growth hormone, which increase longevity. At the same time, sex lowers levels of the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol, which decrease your life span. A Duke University study showed that women who were happy with their sex lives could live up to eight years longer compared with women who were indifferent to their sex lives. While healthy loving adds years to your life, it also takes years off your face, making you actually look younger. Studies show that people who are highly satisfied with their sex life looked 4 to 7 years younger than their peers. This results from reduced stress, greater happiness, and better sleep. So before you invest in a costly makeover, try improving your sex life.

If love equals health, how to manifest love? Begin by loving yourself. For your relationships, share your time, energy, and self with your loved ones. Look for ways to give back and make them happy. For instance, you might cook a meal or do the dishes as a pleasant surprise. Or you might send them a card, listing their many special qualities. It does not need to be elaborate or expensive, but it should show that you care and appreciate them. As you give freely of your love, you will receive meaningful love in return.

You can find many more ways that love helps you live to 100 in Secrets of Longevity: Hundreds of Ways to Live to Be 100, which is now available on Kindle. If you are interested in a structured longevity program, check out my new book Secrets of Longevity 8-Week Program, a journal that will transform your health and lengthen your years.

I invite you to visit often and share your own personal health and longevity tips with me.

Courtesy of Dr.Mao

I Am Loving and Capable

First in a series by life coach Barry Eisen:
The EXPERIMENT:
On each child in the 3rd grade class, Ann, the teacher, pinned a round, construction paper badge with the capital letters IALAC.  IALAC is an acronym for “I Am Loving And Capable.” The kids’ discussion about IALAC considered how typical daily stuff, activities and interactions, could be better with that idea remembered at times of need.

The kids enthusiastically agreed that they could do everything better if they came from a mind-place of of IALAC: They laughed at images, If I am really ‘Loving,’ I can be more patient when my dog throws up… or when my little sister grabs my stuff.  If I am really ‘Capable,’ I can master my times-tables even though they’re hard for me.”  The excitement of accessing a whole idea in a single word that could really alleviate their days’ stresses inspired even the most reticent to at least give it a go.  The best part was that IALAC didn’t need to be cleaned, brushed or packed or refolded.  Talk about Simple, Fun and Magical!

Parents were sent a note engaging their support for the game which had only 2 rules:
1.  The IALAC badge was to be worn at all times for a week.
2.  At any time that the child did not feel or behave Loving or Capable, the child was to tear a little piece of off the badge.
So, each time a child got angry, frustrated or out of control as a result of what that kid perceived someone else had done or how something had happened, regardless of who the culprit was or what inspired the feeling, the badge had to be made smaller.  A piece of the badge removed reminded of a shift away from IALAC.
That was it.

The OUTCOME:
When Ann and the class were ready for their week review, the badges told a powerful story.  Here was this recently excited group of kids now wearing safety pins with tiny, sad, tattered remnants of their original IALAC badges.  Each child was given an opportunity to share her personal tales of woe and justification for the mutilation of his once round and intact badge. Stories ranged from those who were so hard on themselves that they tore their IALAC badges as a result of guilt and even self loathing, to those finger-pointers whose sad tales identified perceived abuse and shattered entitlement.  “I was mean to Mommy.” “My brother did ‘it’ so I smacked him and then I got in trouble…  My sister wouldn’t stop.  I got angry and started screaming…  I had to go to bed too early and started crying.” Lots of stories.  Some anger. Lots of frustration. Some tears. Lots of laughter.  Given legitimate license to complain, the kids’ turns to share became a game of “Can You Bottom This?”

With the stories reported of the tragedies that had befallen the innocent and the guilty, and the emotions released, Ann astutely shifted the experience with one question for each child to answer, “Who tore up your badge?”

The LESSON:
Sure, some kids had someone who reached over and snagged a piece, but the single answer and its message were clear, “I did.”   No one does nearly as good a job of tearing-up our self-image as we do.  And the “we” is really “I.” It is I who polishes or shreds my own chosen sense of self, my loving and capability.

So aren’t we still those kids with the same choices for self in every instance?  Isn’t it easy to agree?  And are we diligently and consistently remembering, vigilantly protecting, and automatically acting out this belief that I am responsible for my decisions and protecting the power of IALAC?  Are we clear that in all our actions, just like the kids’, we have the same choices ranging from being oblivious of our own responsibility to being overly hard on ourselves as if we were somehow to be perfect at all things our first time? There is not one other soul out there who is nearly as capable of damaging our self image as we, as I, am.

The EVIDENCE:
Think about the last 3-5 events in which you were pulled from your highest self and mutilated IALAC.  They’re easy to spot: Look at your motions (acts) and emotions (feelings).   Who or what got credited or blamed for the stuff for which you are culpable?
• Did you celebrate your successes or attribute them outside yourself?
• Did you blame the stuff that happened on another, the weather, the market, the product?
Think back further to the injustices that your belief tells you were done TO you.
If you combine these experiences, just like the kids were asked to do, with IALAC, can you see where your perception of the events shifts?

From credit to culpability, we have all likely, at times, forgotten to celebrate ourselves for acts of IALAC that we judged as too small or unworthy, and certainly we all have had real wrongs and injustices perpetrated against us.  Even here, we remain responsible for the perspective we hold.  As my wife always reminds, “It’s never what happens that matters, but how we view it that empowers or disenfranchises us from out power.”  Maybe as you look at your history, you find your internal self screaming “Noooo!,” resisting onus and pointing elsewhere, “It was my dad .. my mom, my boss, colleague, that evil coach, frenemy, teacher.. or ‘Joe-Shmo’ who did it TO me..” Really?  Go ahead, point a finger and notice that as the one goes out, three are pointing back at you.

Years after the incident is over, or the people are gone, who is it carrying on that voice of disapproval and discontent?   It is the I.  Who’s really tearing up the badge?  I am.  Who’s really creating the ulcer?  Hello-o.  It’s our own inner voice doing the dirty damage.  It’s our chosen perception and inner repetition of the script that establishes certainty, a BELIEF, of the story’s meaning.  Whether that meaning is “I can’t catch a ball, I’m not a good speaker” when we deny ourselves credit, or “Johnny did it” when we absolve ourselves of guilt, the repeated lies we tell ourselves gain certainty and shape our next decisions.

The POSSIBILITIES:
Boundless. Here lies our power.
Did some of those kids think the experiment was dumb?  Good chance.

And did others get it in a way that raised their power and shifted their lives forever?  Quite likely.

So here’s the acid-test:  Whether you believe you were the kid who got it or resisted it.. who’s got your back today?  If I could show you a way that builds your IALAC mechanism from wherever you are, would you be willing to “put on the badge.”

All it takes to roll on with old stories or replace the racket with new beliefs that serve you to your highest is this: a DECISION.  Then that decision needs to be repeated just like the old limitations were.  You’re already expert at buying your own stories… so make the stories what you want.

The UNDERSTANDINGS:
•  The world is impersonal, without attitude or intention.
•  There is no stress other than what we attach to events or people.
•  There is no comfort other than what we attach to events or people.
•  We have choice.  We may go kicking and screaming or go in joy to the same event.
•  We choose our self-image.  We are neither victims nor beneficiaries except as we choose to view our world.
•  The voice in our head (the one that may have just asked “What voice?”) is our own even when we dress it in memories and voices of others.

The I Am Loving and Capable LIFESKILLS:
Practice these positive skills consistently and you enlarge your ability to attract.  Remember – your limitations were learned through emotion and repetition.  Use emotion and repetition to instill your unlimited breadth, beauty and brilliance.

1. Think IALAC when your tendency has been to say “I know that.”  What you think you know is distancing you from what you are capable of learning.  How much of what we know is attached to the yesterday’s self image?   If you’re not getting the answer you need, ask better questions.  Asking questions at all in areas where you thought “I already know” shifts everything.

2.  Think IALAC when your tendency has been to jump to conclusions. When you’re not sure why, slow down.  Breathe.  Ask questions.  Instead of approaching with “You’re wrong,” use, “I’m confused by that” and calmly state your reason.  Be interested in the now. The people, the place, the feeling may seem similar to another time but it is a different moment.  Stay open to a different result.

3.  Think IALAC when your tendency has been to hit the anger or frustration button. Take a breath and relax.

4. Think IALAC when your tendency has been to see other’s limitations.  See others as capable.  Encourage the best.  Believe others can.  If they reach and fall, they’ll be further than they would have had they not stretched.

5. Think IALAC when your tendency has been to brush off your own accomplishments as small, inconsequential or undeserving.  We build on our successes.  Daily recognizing something “small” as of value creates 365 points of new power each year. What if 5% of those upgrade your life?

6. Think IALAC when your tendency has been to brush off courtesy and respect.  Too tired for hello, please, thank you?  Consciously create the world in which you place yourself.  Your environment will mirror your behavior.

7. Think IALAC when your tendency has been to hear selectively or not at all. Pay attention and really concentrate on hearing others.  What’s really being said?

8.  Think IALAC when your tendency has been to be defensive.  Listen impartially… as if what’s being said about you is being said about someone else.  Don’t attach.  Notice if there’s a lot, a little, or none of what’s said that fits.  Even if none, be willing to say calmly, “That’s interesting.  It doesn’t feel right, but I’ll consider if there’s something in there for me.”  If others are sincere and you disagree this way, they’ll feel acknowledged.  If they are insincere, they’ll be astounded as you haven’t allowed your buttons to be pushed.

9.  Think IALAC when your tendency has been to anticipate stress, misery, failure, traffic.  Replacing the anticipation of misery with openness and curiosity may not change the traffic, but it changes the damage to your body that negative anticipation creates.   Remember that the mind doesn’t distinguish between real and imagined.  Think anxiety and your body functions in stress.

10.  Think IALAC when your tendency has been to be so serious that you miss the pleasure. Have fun.  This game of life is yours in which to perform.  Embrace the moments.

11.  Think IALAC and decide that the choices you make today will make a positive difference.  Don’t let anyone, including you, diminish your IALAC badge (your self esteem). You are loving and capable… well, soon as you choose them.

Yes, these are the same skills shared with the children.  Aren’t we, as adults, as much in need of reinforcing the good stuff?

Of course, for those of you who have learned self-hypnosis from me, see and feel yourself in a session of relaxation, coming from IALAC in each of your tasks for quick and deep learning.  If you’d like me to make a new personal CD for you with your current goals, please email or contact me personally at my office.

For everyone: please call or email me to set up a no-obligation, test drive, coaching session. (Approximately 1/2 hour on the phone.) Amazing things happen when two minds focus with combined knowledge, wisdom and experience to solve problems or create new visions. Make this fourth quarter of the year amazing.


Warmest Regards,

Barry Eisen


Having a Pet Can Help You Stay Healthy

KANSAS CITY – Having a pet in your life can help you stay hale and hearty, say researchers.

Owning a four-legged, furry pet would help lower blood pressure, encourage exercise and also improve psychological health.

“Pets are of great importance to people, especially during hard economic times,” said Rebecca Johnson, associate professor from University of Missouri College of Veterinary Medicine Research Center for Human-Animal Interaction (ReCHAI).

“Pets provide unconditional love and acceptance and may be part of answers to societal problems, such as inactivity and obesity,” she added.

In a study sponsored by ReCHAI, ‘Walk a Hound, Lose a Pound and Stay Fit for Seniors’, a group of older adults were matched with shelter dogs, while another group of older adults were partnered with a human walk buddy.

For 12 weeks, participants were encouraged to walk on an outdoor trail for one hour, five times a week.

“The older people who walked their dogs improved their walking capabilities by 28 percent,” said Johnson.

“They had more confidence walking on the trail, and they increased their speed.

“The older people who walked with humans only had a 4 percent increase in their walking capabilities.

“The human walking buddies tended to discourage each other and used excuses such as the weather being too hot,” she added.

The researchers will explore the many ways animals benefit people of all ages during the International Society for Anthrozoology and Human-Animal Interaction Conference in Kansas City, Mo., on Oct. 20-25.

“Research in this field is providing new evidence on the positive impact pets have in our lives,” said Johnson.

 “This conference will provide a unique opportunity to connect international experts working in human-animal interaction research with those already working in the health and veterinary medicine fields.

“A wonderful array of presentations will show how beneficial animals can be in the lives of children, families and older adults,” she added.

Broken Heart ‘Ups Heart Attack Risk’

Broken Heart ‘Ups Heart Attack Risk’

LONDON – A broken heart can prove to be a serious health threat, say Australian researchers who found that people mourning the loss of a loved one are six times more likely to suffer cardiac arrest.

As per a Heart Foundation study of the physical changes suffered immediately after a profound loss, grieving people were at significantly higher risk of heart problems, said lead researcher Thomas Buckley.

The study was conducted to “shed fresh light on why people traumatized by the loss of a loved one are more susceptible to having a heart attack”, reports The Daily Express.

A team at the University of Sydney, Australia, studied 80 bereaved adults to reach the conclusion.

Lead author Dr Thomas Buckley said: “Emotional and mood changes were greatest during this time.

“Overall, the bereaved had -increases in anxiety, depression and anger, with elevated stress hormones and -reduced sleep and appetite.

“They also showed increases in blood pressure and heart rate, – together with immune and blood -clotting changes – all changes that could contribute to a heart attack.”

The study was published in the -Internal Medicine Journal.